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Someone once said:

“If you have to make laws to hurt a group of people just to prove your morals and faith, then you have no true morals or faith to prove.”
I’m not really one to divulge in political or religious conversations, not because I have no faith, beliefs, or opinions but because these two subjects tend to cause an uproar when realistically, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. However, the opinions and beliefs I have, I strongly stand by and will openly become blunt and argumentative if need be. When I was in high school, I wrote a letter to various governors and mayors regarding two things. The first isn’t for today but the second is in support of gay marriage. As a straight student in Tottenville High School, I had a lot of gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual friends. Now this goes back to the entrance into my teenage years so we’re talking ten years ago or so, when people did not feel as comfortable being open with their sexuality. I watched my best friends struggle with their sexuality, I watched them hide it, be mocked for it when they had the courage to come out. I watched my best friends take a razor to their wrists in fear, rejection, insecurity, and confusion – without guidance or support to understand. At the time, Tottenville held “A Day Of Silence,” in which all could participate, and many did, including myself. It is “the single student – led action towards creating safer schools for all, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.” This article says it best; “By taking a vow of silence, you’re making a powerful statement about the important issue of anti-LGBT bullying.” 
As time has progressed, society has become more comfortable with coming out and openly engaging in same gendered relationships. There will always be people with their own opinions and I respect that but what I do not respect nor agree with is bullying, marriage inequality, or discrimination. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “our lives begin to and the day we become silent about the things that matter,” and to discriminate against same gendered relationships and marriage is absolutely barbaric. The main protest from opposers is how it goes against the traditional definition of marriage but if we look at that traditional definition- we have migrated from women being property and arranged marriages, to interracial marriages, to LGBT marriages. People and relationships have evolved since ancient times and to stand against people who are doing nothing but trying to embrace love is just as wrong as it was when the world denied interracial marriage. All the LGBT community request is respect and acknowledgment for the same love a man and woman engage in and to deny them to marry is to deny two humans the same rights granted to everyone else because of their gender. There is a writer existent in this world who in his article states that same sex marriage is a “[threat] to religious liberty when churches and religious institutions are challenged not to discriminate against gays.” This has to be the most disgusting thing I have ever read and for it to be in connection with religious leaders is much worse because the church should not discriminate. The gay community may change the world as it changes gender roles within relationships and opens society’s minds and hearts to a love that may be different but is nonetheless true but it does not force its acceptance upon anyone – it simply exists regardless of judgments and opinions. However, protestors enforce their opinions on everyone else by demobilizing the progression of the legalization of gay marriage. That is the difference. 
A person would not want to be judged or discriminated against for their gender, nationality, clothing, job, religion, whom they choose to marry, hell, a person wouldn’t want to be discriminated against for their mistakes and actions that actually hurt people so do not dare discriminate against two people simply engaging in love, do not bully them, do not judge them, do not be hurtful, and do not dare stand in the way of people practicing love and being happy – the same beautiful right no one stood in your way to have – despite the physical appearance, personality, or person your partner is. 
-Allison Ryder