i steadily watch people sabotage their relationships. from personal experience to watching friends and their numerous encounters; the bad is so easy to expect and the good is difficult to accept. how destructive is it that we cannot believe in a good thing when it is right in front of us because we are used to such cruel motives and ill hearts. we will be our own worst enemies if we allow such a ridiculous mindset to overcome our better knowledge… we will chase away everyone we care for, we will push away everyone we want close, we will never trust and never be trusted because this mindset will ultimately dictate our actions. to change this is simple:
want to change.
accept the good for what it is, when it’s right in front of you.
block everyone else out. no one else matters.
respect the relationship you’re in.
you were wrong? you made mistakes? a lot of them? ok. fix them. you’re not the worst thing you’ve ever done and you’re not your mistakes so prove it. only you can show who you truly are.
there are no what if’s, there’s only right now.
don’t expect things to go wrong just because they have in the past.
you’re your own worst enemy. STOP.
take a breather. everyone gets intense but recognize you’re doing it and control it.
work on your own life because a lot of times, these destructive thoughts enter your mind when something in your life is going downhill or you have far too much time on your hands.
let the person you’re with- in. trust them. if you can’t, then what are you doing. you have to give people the chance to be there for you.
don’t ever lie to the person you’re with. if you feel like you need to, then you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing.
the things you expect from the person you’re with are things you should first expect from yourself.
if you’re happy in the moment then just be happy. there’s no reason for stress or drama – life has enough of that in every other aspect.
listen. we all hear each other but we rarely listen. we have to listen if we are to make things work.